So we’re sitting on the tail end of a month that began with high hopes, big goals, lofty aspirations, and a tank full of motivation.
How are you feeling now?!
Did you try the B-SMART-R approach to your goals this month?
How can I be so sure, you ask?
The key is in the last “R”, the emphasis being on REFLECT.
To reflect on something is to “think deeply or carefully about.” If you considered all of your goals for this month and wrote a brief reflection after each one, you surely came out of this month having learned more about yourself. The purpose of creating goals (very simply stated) is to self-improve. It is impossible to improve oneself if we are abandoning our goals at the first sign of defeat. We need to look beyond the slip-ups and ask ourselves WHY? With REFLECTION, it is certain to make us better.
This is also a great tool when we succeed at achieving our goals! When we are able to reflect on WHY and HOW we dominated a particular goal, it teaches us where our strengths are, and how to capitalize on them.
I am still fairly new to this goal setting method, so here are some things I’ve learned along the way…
- REFLECT does not equal EXCUSE
- I found myself tempted to make excuses when I wrote down my reflections. “I was sick, this person did not cooperate, this circumstance was out of my control.” While all of these things may have been true, I needed to acknowledge that life happens, and that some things are in my control, and other things are not. In the future, I will be careful to create my goals with these things in mind.
- BALANCE IS STILL TOUGH
- I intentionally chose one goal for each area of the Balanced 7. This isn’t new to me, but it is always a good reminder of what I am naturally good at, and what needs more practice. Perfect balance isn’t the goal, but paying attention to each area keeps the important things in focus.
- SOME IS BETTER THAN NONE
- I notice a significant difference between the months when I set goals and the months I do not. I feel more productive, motivated, and satisfied at the end of my days. It gives me direction and keeps me focused on my big-picture dreams. Although no goal-setting quest is flawless, the effort always trumps the exclusion.
Thank you for following this 2-part series on how to B-SMART-R! I hope it encouraged you to give yourself some grace and taught you something new about yourself!
It is also my desire that you no longer see goal-setting as a prison. I hope you now embrace it as an opportunity to pay attention to your life and make it more meaningful.
What did you learn as your challenged yourself to B-SMART-R?